When I was growing up I learned that my job was to please the adults around me by obeying the rules, be a good girl, get good grades, don’t talk back, respect your elders, don’t cry, don’t complain, just do it, stop being so sensitive, use your head not your heart, stop talking, life is tough so get tougher, stop asking for things, and so on and so on. Does any of this sound familiar?
I know many of you have had the same upbringing, these same boxes to squeeze yourself into. These boxes kept us safe. They kept us in the family unit. They kept us fed, clothed, and with a roof over our head. And they kept us feeling loved. If we are just good enough, we’ll be loved. If we are just perfect enough, we will be loved. If we do as we re told we’ll be loved. But with this, our personal value was compromised. As we grew older our dreams and hopes and passions began to diminish. We weren’t heard. We had to keep small so as to not rock the boat. And so many of us lost sight of our values, those heart centered beliefs in ourselves that would allow us to know our importance and honor our desire to live our lives our own way.
Thank Goddess that things are a-changing!!
Thank God that we have become aware of the damage this does and that we are being more conscious parents and grandparents.
But how do we recover from the trauma, pain and loss? How do we move through the depression, anxiety, even dis-ease of the body that is created when we lose ourselves?
We start by becoming aware of whether or not we are living by our true values. I’m not talking about what you value, such as your family, job, money, car, house or your friends.
I’m talking about qualities of life that you value, such as integrity, kindness, optimism, caring, thoughtfulness, respectfulness, fun and generosity.
What are your values? Take a few minutes and write some down. Write down qualities you’d like to have in your life.
And then take a look at those values and think about how you incorporate those values in your life. Are you living what is most important to you? Are your goals aligned with your values? Not entirely? That’s ok!! You have come into an awareness of something that can help your consciousness shift into the next level!!
When you begin to live by your values, you are able to shift into a higher state of consciousness where self-love, peace, harmony and balance are your experience. Your become happier, more successful, more passionate and even healthier! You don’t have to chase them, they just are.
When you are living by your values, your passion and purpose become clear. Your life becomes a joy. Your heart is filled to overflowing!!
Is it as easy as all that? Well, it can be, but sometimes it takes a process of awareness to really get to the heart of blocks and limitations. The process of Life Coaching, hypnotherapy, tapping and mindfulness can bring up the deeply stored energies that need to be released to find your true values. Practicing prayer and meditation, having a great life coach, mindfulness, visioning and continued participation with a group or having an accountability buddy goes a long way to support you in making the changes needed to live your truth, your values and your passion!!
I offer several different Group Coaching Courses where we learn how to let go of past limitations and find out what our true values are. And then we learn how to implement them into our lives to find the happiness and passion we have always known we are capable of!!
Please see my calendar for dates and times. And if you don’t see one scheduled, send me a note and we can set one up!!
I look forward to more love in the world!! I look forward to more YOU in the world!!
Love, Michele Amburgey
Life Coach, Intuitive, Energy Healer, Spiritual Teacher, CBD Consultant